I believe in the power of human connection—it is vital to our happiness and to our well-being. Whether you are monogamous, polyamorous, or in a close intimate friendship, relating to one another in an open, vulnerable and enlivened way is essential to being human. To know that someone is there for you through life’s twists and turns, who can really see you and aid in your growth, is really the best feeling in the world.

Unfortunately, all too often things interfere with that connection. Triggers from old woundings can come up in our present moment experience and can cause us to pull away, blame or become entrenched in defensiveness with one another.

My role as a couple’s therapist is to help each person become aware of their past wounding, their defense systems, and the ways of communicating that are preventing them from deeply hearing their partner. I help couples learn how to resolve conflict constructively and repair hurt feelings.

In addition to working with heterosexual couples, I enjoy working with queer, trans and sex/kink positive communities.

I have had a lot of success with couples who are willing to put in the time and effort to see their negative cycles, take responsibility for their part in the dynamics, get curious about their own defense patterns, and are motivated to change—not only for their partner but for themselves.